There has been much ado online recently about successful co-parents. Shared family vacations, shared family photos, shared holiday celebrations…even matching t-shirts. This is the ideal when two parents, despite their differences, co-parent organically.
In my experience, there are three categories of co-parenting styles: 1) those who do it organically; 2) those who “make it work”; and, 3) those who can’t.
Those who co-parent organically succeed at reinventing what it means to be “family” despite separate households. They share the same beliefs about parenting, communicate well, and do not espouse the “territoriality” or “children as possessions” behavior (my time is mine…my child, my way…only I know best) that hallmarks, to varying degrees, the other two categories. These folks are the most likely to have no parenting agreement or custody order, or if they do, it lives in a drawer and they live life doing what’s best for their children.